Foreplay

State of Mental Relaxation
If a person indulges in love-making while his mind is preoccupied with some thought or worry, he robs both his partner and himself of much of the possible pleasure and satisfaction. If you find yourself mentally occupied before love-making, pay your partner a great compliment: Tell yourself that you are going to put aside all your thoughts and worries for a while in order to give and receive pleasure and satisfaction from your partner. Though it sounds very simple and easy and rather silly, it is a fact that just by consciously wanting to do so we can banish nagging thoughts and worries from our mind during love-making.

Cleanliness
Cleanliness of the sexual organs is of vital importance. There are many glands, including sweat glands, around the genitals which pour out secretions that play no part in causing sexual arousal but which can produce offensive odours. The general habit of cleaning the genitals every day goes a long way in making you more attractive to your partner. Many women find it necessary to clean their genitals after love-making, before they can settle down to a good sleep. Isn't it amazing how few husbands realize that it would be deeply appreciated if every now and then they did this cleansing for their wives, instead of always leaving them to tend for themselves.

Nakedness
For good love-making it is best that both the partners should be completely naked. Even the flimsiest piece of clothing may get in the way during some vital moments. Furthermore, the sensation of a naked part touching a naked part is considerably reduced if there is a piece of clothing in between. Jewellery, too, should be removed before love-making. Needless to say, the process of undressing can be occasionally made somewhat pleasurable and exciting by partners undressing each other.

Bad Breath
Don't have a bad breath during love-making. Nothing may turn off your partner as much as this. If you know in advance that you are going to make love, avoid foods such as garlic and onion, the smell of which lingers on for a long time after consumption. If you have drunk and smoked heavily, do your partner a favourÄbrush your teeth and rinse your mouth well. It is worth the effort when you think of a possible alternative your partner may want to keep his or her face away from yours throughout the session of love-making.

Communication
Very often, because of modesty and because of fear of appearing crude, there is no spoken communication between a couple during love-making. A wife may have a strong desire to be caressed at a particular spot or to be loved in a certain way, but is prevented by modesty from indicating her wishes to her husband. Such modesty is a hindrance to good love-making, and an effort should be made to overcome it. There should be no fear of spoken communication between a couple during love-making if they are to achieve mutual fulfilment of their sexual desires and needs.

Fear of Unwanted Pregnancy
In the case of many women the enjoyment of love-making is severely curbed by their fear of unwanted pregnancy. Every couple should decide whether or not they want to have a baby during a particular period. If they do not want to have one, they should, through their nearest family planning clinic, take the necessary precautionary measures. This will go a long way in increasing their, and especially the woman's, enjoyment of lovemaking. In fact, the inability of some women to have an orgasm is often directly related to a fear of unwanted pregnancy.

Mutual Give and Take of Pleasure
For successful love-making it is essential that both the partners should have a desire not only to receive but also give pleasure. If a man is concerned only with his own pleasure, he not only deprives his partner of her pleasure but also lessens his own. The same goes for the woman. Love-making without a mutual desire to give and take can never reach great heights of sensation and pleasure.

Individual Differences
A good lover is aware of the fact that sexual responses differ in different people. For example, some women enjoy the stimulation of their anus, while others cannot stand it at all; some women are tremendously aroused if their breasts are tightly squeezed, while others can tolerate only the lightest fondling. A person who, in spite of indications to the contrary from his partner, continues to caress a part because of what he has read, heard or experienced elsewhere is dampening the joy of his love-making by not appreciating the sexual individuality of people.

Sounds
During love-making most women and many men involuntarily make exclamations of appreciation, or give little cries or whimpers. Usually, the volume of sound increases as sensations mount. Many men have the notion that they must control themselves and not make any sounds. This is wrong; let the sounds come out. They will have a wonderful effect on your partner, as they will convey to her your appreciation of what she is doing to stimulate you.

Change of Time and Place
To most people, under normal conditions, their bed and the time before they go off to sleep is most convenient for lovemaking. However, an effort, every now and then, to change the time and place of love-making is worthwhile. Seizing an opportunity on some weekend or holiday for day-time sex is likely to create a healthy psychological feeling. Also, making love before one gets up early in the morning can be very commendable at times. This, contrary to popular belief, will not leave one feeling tired for the rest of the day. As for the location, the other rooms of the house, or some place outside the home, should be used whenever a good chance presents itself. This, besides having a tonic-like effect on the body and the mind, often leads to the trying out of new positions.

Enjoyment of Sex
To indulge in sex is to indulge in something pleasurable and enjoyable. Some people, because of certain wrong educative influences, have a notion or guilt-complex that sex is a necessary evil and not something that should be enjoyed. This is absolute rubbish. Sex should be enjoyed, and the more you enjoy your love-making the better.

Variety in Love-Making
Unbelievable though it may sound, some people carry out their love-making in a routine sort of way. Having unconsciously planned a chain of caressing which works well with their partner, they keep repeating it again and again and again. This is a sure way of slowly eroding enjoyment from one's sex life. A routine in caressing can become as tiresome as an unchanging diet of roast beef month after month. Be more imaginative. There is no end to the variety in love-making once you get down to thinking about

The Right and Wrong
Many people, because of notions induced in them during their impressionable years, worry a great deal whether this or that in love-making is dirty, bad or wrong. No matter how sweeping it sounds, the golden rule here is: There is nothing a man or a woman can do to one another in a sexual situation that is shameful, sinful or morally wrong provided that neither partner is made to do something against his or her will and neither is physically or psychologically harmed by it.

Gazing
The eyes-into-eyes gazing between lovers for a long time usually leads to two results; a very pleasurable feeling and a delightful kind of sexual arousal. Good lovers, no matter for how long they have been married, do not allow this practice to fade out of their love-making.